Cassie Lorrin Seguin
It’s hard to summarize how special Cassie is, but if I could sum it up in three words: “A Bleeding Heart.” She was effortlessly empathetic to other people and their situations despite her own struggles.
Despite appearing healthy to friends and family, Cassie had her own medical struggles. While she could bust out an easy five-mile jog (even later on in pregnancy with our daughter Sutton), she was borderline diabetic. More often than not, I would wake up to her throwing up in the bathroom. Even when she eventually got on medicine after being diagnosed with gestational diabetes, it only masked the problem. We often would joke and say we are the healthiest/unhealthiest couple alive. In our three-and-a-half-year marriage, she had two kidney stone surgeries, was hospitalized multiple times for hyperemesis in her first pregnancy, and was trending that way again with our last pregnancy before her unfortunate passing.
I say this not to dwell in sadness, but it’s remarkable how positive she is. She had enough problems in her own life but still chose joy. I think the only way to grow in joy is to suffer temporarily in this world. These experiences allowed her to appreciate the simple things when she did feel good: a walk around the neighborhood with her family, a good meal with a loved one, a fresh cup of coffee on a rainy day, checking up on a long-lost friend, watching our daughter play.
The way I believe you fully complete joy is to obey God’s greatest commandment, which is to love everyone. For me, that is Cassie’s legacy. Love conquers all, even death. Notice how I talk in the present tense and not the past tense. I say “she is” and not “she was.” That is because she is more alive than me, and it’s okay to still pray for her and for all our loved ones. Don’t let anyone tell you differently. For the remainder of my life, I am going to keep praying for her and others.
We love you, Cassie.
More about Cassie
Cassie was born on May of 1997 into a loving military family. After moving frequently they eventually settled in Georgia where she attended flowery branch high school. From a young age she loved to run and was a fierce competitor in that regard. She was a light in this world and naturally attracted many friends. She was a wonderful sister, daughter, wife and the most amazing mother. She embodied the definition of love and was known to uplift others by saying two simple words “Its Okay”. A simple but powerful reminder that she cared and her people were never alone. Cassie had a passion for making all kinds of delicious food and had a very unique skill in turning the most healthy ingredients into something delicious. She was no stranger to suffering and some of her greatest suffering (being pregnant with our first child) was the vessel to unimaginable joy. The joy of being blessed with a beautiful child. I remember being scared when we found out she was pregnant again – talking outside on the swing. My worry was met with reassurance in her saying it was God’s plan. Little did we know her time on this earth was coming to an end.
Naturally my grief spiraled into anger but it eventually dawned on me. We were never destined for this fallen world. Our greatest destiny is to be born again in Christ in eternal life. Unfortunately it took a 2 x 4 upside the head for that to stick. She definitely helped my soul and I hope I can help others. Our life is extremely painful at times but what a blessing she was.
Remembering Cassie 